The holidays are supposed to be something we look forward to, right? The statistics on holiday depression, suicide, stress, packed schedules and credit card debt should make us turn and run from the holidays. I have heard it’s all about family, but have you seen my family? I know you all have that crazy family member who is bound to drink too much, bring up the most awkward conversation, try to kiss you on the lips, or ask you why you have gotten so…fat, bald, old or whatever thing you are a little self conscious about. With all of this I vote we cancel the holiday and take it back.
My theme this holiday season lies upon the 4 Rs: Rest, Reflection, Relaxation and Refreshment.
Rest—I am not giving any earned personal time back. I am using it all. I am going to take an afternoon nap. I am going to leave unscheduled time on my calendar. I am going to say no to several requests for coffee, a party or for meeting someone new.
Reflection—I am going to think about where I have been and where I am going. I am making an appointment with myself for 1–4 hours to just think. I am going to do a year-end review for myself. I am going to write down a few things I would like to see done a year from now, five years from now. I am going to look at my personal, mental, professional and spiritual lives.
Relaxation—I am going to put aside time to do what I really enjoy. I am going to try new recipes and cook more. I am taking a trip to the library to read more. I am setting up a place in my house to do that hobby I enjoy so much but my schedule never seems to allow. I am going to watch that movie with my kids. I am going look at more art. I am going to take a walk and just enjoy the birds. I am going to play with my kids and laugh.
Refreshment—This is what comes from living the first three Rs. In a culture and profession that can make us weary at times, we all need a little more of this.
Happy Holidays with the 4 Rs!